I wrote previously in Cut the Yo-Yo String that one’s subconscious mind acts somewhat like a thermostat. A thermostat keeps a house’s temperature around its setting. When the temperature falls too far, it turns on the heater until the temperature reaches its setting. Or, during the summer months, it will behave similarly with an air conditioner, cooling the home when the temperature rises too far above its setting.
When it comes to our fitness level, there is a “zone of familiarity” where our subconscious mind will try to keep us. If we become less active, eat too much, or otherwise slack off, it will help kick us into gear until we reach the subconscious “fitness thermostat” setting.
And, to our great frustration, it behaves the same on the other side. Say we embark on a diet because we want to lose weight. We start engaging in some Joyful Motion, start eating Good Food, and to our delight we see the pounds start to disappear. However, to our subconscious mind, this constitutes a problem once we start to move out of the “zone of familiarity”. It wants to set things right (from its perspective), and old habits start to kick in. How many of us have found ourselves halfway through a sweet (e.g. a doughnut), not really realizing that we had grabbed it on our way out the door in the rush to work? Or started to “get cravings”? Or lament our lapses and whine to our co-workers or friends about how we “lost control”?
I write this not to justify shrouding ourselves in the mantle of the victim, but in the hopes that others, like myself, will start to become aware of the dynamics with our subconscious mind.
Fitness does not mean going to war with our psyche. We can make our mind a partner in a joyful endeavor, not an enemy with which we do battle. Bringing our subconscious mind into partnership could be looked at as adjusting our “fitness thermostat” to a new setting. This will span several articles, but let’s kick it off.
Adjusting the Fitness Thermostat
The subconscious mind is in many ways like an innocent child. It accepts as true what the conscious mind impresses upon it through meaning and repetition. Furthermore, it cannot discern between an actual experience and an experience that is vividly imagined in the conscious mind. Without thinking, over the course of our years we build up a certain perception about ourselves. This perception (regardless of whether it’s true or false, accurate or distorted) the subconscious acts on as if it were actually true and accurate.
The facts concerning the way that this happens is neither good nor bad. It’s just the way that they are. For those of us who want better health, wealth, happiness… it’s fabulous news! It means that ultimately, we are in the driver’s seat, with our hands and feet on the controls. In other words, our hand is on the fitness thermostat. We just need to develop the psychological muscles needed to move the hand, thus moving the thermostat.
Go back two paragraphs and notice that the subconscious mind cannot discern between and actual experience and an experience that is vividly imagined. We can take advantage of this. It may seem strange at first, but as we develop the habit of vividly imagining ourselves as having achieved our fitness ideal, the easier it becomes. As with everything, practice makes the difficult comfortable.
Step One: Put Your Hand on the Thermostat
I’ve taken time during my quiet moments to start exploring what the words “I am fit” mean to me, deep down. At first it was hard to really put my finger on it. I found that I had some trouble articulating exactly what that meant to me. With patience and persistence, that deep personal meaning started to become more clear. Some people have told me that they find it helpful to set thoughts to paper. Others, a quiet morning walk, or those minutes in motion sitting on the subway constituted opportunities to ponder the question. Taking the time to just start the process is the important part. “Just do it”, as the commercials admonish us.
Those who recognize the spiritual component of their lives also have access to prayer and meditation (of both the Western and Eastern traditions). I would suggest incorporating these tools into your exploration. Invite God into your exploration and self-discovery.
My first step was to simply ask the question, “What do the words ‘I am fit’ mean to me?” I invite you to do the same. Don’t rush past the question by saying, “I want to lose twenty pounds.” I realized that’s not a description of fitness. For me “losing” so many pounds was an expression of desire, but I found it never constituted a serious inquiry into what I really meant when I said, “fitness”.
As an aside, don’t use this exercise and an excuse to not start moving your body and consuming better foods! Just put your life into motion. You can fine-tune as you move along. Years ago, I heard a man marked by many successes made this point by saying, “Even the Almighty can’t steer a parked car.” I can’t speak for Mr. Almighty, but I got the point.
We’ll pick up the second step next in this series.
Status: 25 pounds lighter
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